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Struggling After a Break Up? Therapy Can Help

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Breakups are not easy, and there is a great deal to think about once you’re single again. Perhaps hardest of all, though, is deciding the best time to start dating again after a breakup. Listening to friends or family, as they give you their opinions (“Get out there immediately!” “You should wait six months!”) can get very confusing. That’s why the best place to start is by eliminating all of the outside advice, and focusing on how you feel after the breakup. If the relationship was long, chances are you will need a significant amount of time to heal before “getting out there” again. Focus on yourself. Go to therapy. Rebuild your life and schedule. The process can take months, even years. However, not all breakups are disastrous and overwhelming. Sometimes they’re actually are a huge relief.  And if that’s the case, you may be ready to date within a short period of time. The therapists at Clear Mind Counseling in San Diego can help. They are skilled in working with singles in the San Diego area struggling with break ups and dating concerns.

After a bad breakup, you may never want to trust another person with your heart ever again. For some people, the sense of loss or abandonment felt after a breakup is similar to the feelings experienced during bereavement. When you lose a partner that’s been a centerpiece in your life, even if the relationship wasn’t ideal, you may feel painfully bereft.

Avoiding your breakup emotions like anger, sadness, and rejection, to name a few, will prevent you from moving past them. It’s essential to confront them head-on. Write your thoughts down in a journal, have a good cry, and talking to a therapist can help you process and gain the clarity you need to see why the relationship didn’t work, and why you’re better off now. 

A breakup can be one of the most stressful and emotional experiences in life. Whatever the reason for the split—and whether you wanted it or not—the breakup of a relationship can turn your world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful and unsettling emotions. It’s important to keep reminding yourself that you can get through this and ultimately move on with a renewed and greater sense of hope.

You need to recognize that it’s okay to have mixed and different feelings. It’s normal to feel sad, exhausted, frustrated and confused. Accept that reactions like these will diminish over time.

By giving yourself a break, you will realize that it’s okay to function at a less than ideal level for a period of time. No one is a superhero: Take time to heal and reenergize.

Most importantly, don’t go through it alone. Share your feelings with family and friends. They can help you get through this period. Join a support group where you can share similar situations. And don’t hesitate to get professional help.  Remember, moving on is your end goal.

If you are going through a breakup or experiencing some dating challenges, contact the experienced therapists at Clear Mind Counseling in San Diego today to schedule an appointment.