WHAT IS THE GOTTMAN METHOD?

The Gottman Method is a form of couples therapy that is based on the research of Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The method is designed to help couples improve their relationship by addressing specific issues and patterns of behavior that may be causing problems.

One of the key features of the Gottman Method is that it is based on research and data collected from observing couples over many years. The Gottmans have studied thousands of couples in their "Love Lab" over the course of four decades and have developed a method that is based on their findings. The method is built around seven key principles: building love maps, sharing fondness and admiration, turning towards each other, the positive perspective, managing conflict, making life dreams come true, and creating shared meaning.

The Gottman Method also emphasizes the importance of effective communication skills, such as active listening, expressing oneself clearly, and managing emotions. Couples are taught how to communicate in a way that is respectful and non-blaming, and how to express their needs and feelings in a way that is heard and understood by their partner.

Another important aspect of the Gottman Method is that it is designed to help couples identify and change negative patterns of behavior that may be causing problems in their relationship. For example, couples may learn how to recognize and respond to their partner's "bid for connection" in a positive way, which can help improve overall emotional connection and intimacy.

The method also includes assessment tools, such as the "Sound Relationship House" which helps couples to identify the areas in their relationship that needs improvement.

The Gottman Method is not a one-time solution, but it can be an effective way to improve relationships over time. It requires commitment and effort from both partners, but with the right therapist and a willingness to change, couples can see significant improvements in their relationship.

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DEPRESSION AND SADNESS

ANXIETY, FEAR AND STRESS

MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIP CONCERNS

INFIDELITY

DIVORCE

MAJOR LIFE CHANGES

DATING AND BREAKUPS

LONELINESS

GRIEF AND LOSS

CREATING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES IN RELATIONSHIPS

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ASSERTIVENESS TRAINING

ANGER, SHAME AND GUILT

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SEXUAL OR PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION

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