Who Do You Turn to for Advice on Marriage and Relationship Concerns in San Diego?
Clear Mind Counseling Helps Couples Work Through Relationship Issues
What makes a good marriage/relationship?
What are the areas of closeness?
What are the signs of a strong marriage/relationship?
Sometimes individuals and couples can feel dissatisfied, unhappy, and unfulfilled in their marriage/relationships and be unsure as to what exactly went wrong. Love, commitment, trust, communication, openness, patience, fun, willingness to see another’s viewpoint, willingness to compromise. The list can go on. It’s simple and obvious but sometimes it can be very difficult for individuals/couples to manage, especially when difficulties arise or when they drift apart. The therapists at Clear Mind Counseling in San Diego can help. They are experienced working with couples in the San Diego area who have marriage or relationship concerns.
There are many areas of closeness that can enhance a marriage/relationship, help it to remain solid, and help it to get back on track when things become difficult. The following areas of closeness can help couples determine how their relationship is and can also guide a couple to become closer. Each of these areas of closeness, when experienced together, can help a relationship thrive, become more satisfying, closer, and more intimate.
Doing Things Together: It’s important to spend time together. With busy lives (work, school, children), couples can find themselves with very little time for each other. Spending time together regularly can help couples become closer, have more time to talk, and get to know one another better. Go for walk, go shopping, see a movie, and share a hobby. All of these things can contribute to a healthy and loving relationship.
Physical Closeness: Holding hands, hugging, sitting close together, and massaging one another are some examples of how couples can be physically close. More opportunities for physical closeness will increase a couple’s sense of closeness and intimacy.
Emotional Closeness: This helps couples get to know and understand each other. It involves being open with each other about things like thoughts, feelings, hopes, dreams, worries, and fears. Attentive listening also contributes to emotional closeness when both partners listen in order to get to know and understand their spouse more fully.
Sexual Closeness: It is important that both individuals are happy with their sexual relationship—and that they are comfortable in discussing their sexual relationship with the other as needed.
People marry young, share good times/bad times, have children, argue, and have sex less often as they age and as the relationship goes on. Then suddenly, they feel alone when they are together. What went wrong? If couples recognize their problems and are willing to take steps to improve their relationship, then they can usually fix the marriage. But it takes two to make a marriage work so if one partner is not onboard, it can be very difficult.
Some common problems in a marriage or relationship include:
Lack of Communication
Ignoring Boundaries
Lack of Sexual Intimacy
Emotional or Sexual Infidelity
Money Issues
Selfishness
Value Differences
Boredom
Jealousy
Different Life Stages
All couples experience conflict. For some, it’s money; for others it’s a sex life that’s lacking or a pattern of constant fighting. And the COVID-19 pandemic has added and additional stressor, as more time is being spent at home together, which can increase tensions or expose hidden cracks in a relationship. Therapy can help. According to the American Psychological Association, about 75% of couples who choose therapy say it improves their relationships. And psychiatrists agree that it’s always better to go earlier in the process because unhealthy behavior and resentful feelings can become more difficult to change the longer they continue. If you have marriage and relationship concerns, help is available. Contact the experienced therapists at Clear Mind Counseling in San Diego today to schedule an appointment.